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Happiness Tuesdays

The Search for Happiness

Does Stuff Make You Happy?

Does stuff make you happy? Some people would say yes and some would say no.

When I think about that question, my mind goes through a whole series of questions because the answer is not just as simple as a yes or a no.

Some stuff does make us happy! Having a beautiful, cozy house to live in is something that brings me happiness every day. Buying a new nintendo game that I’ve been waiting to play makes me happy! Getting a new book is the best!

Buying new stuff can be a lot of fun and bring us a measure of happiness.

But then my brain goes - but stuff doesn’t really bring me happiness in the big picture. That’s where I feel that the question gets a bit more difficult. There’s a difference between joy and happiness.

To me, happiness is based on circumstances and joy is not. You can be joyful in hard times but it’s pretty hard to be happy in hard times.

Think about a time that you lost someone very dear to you - you can find joy in that time by remembering them well. But we don’t generally say that we are happy when we lose someone we love…that’s because happiness is based on circumstances and joy is not.

So I do believe that stuff can bring us happiness. When our circumstances are good and we get what we want, it’s very easy to be happy.

But that doesn’t mean we are joyful and fulfilled. We can happy for a fleeting moment but lack joy in our lives.

Ultimately I think that’s why we say that happiness doesn’t come from stuff - it comes from a joy that runs deeper than that fleeting moment of happiness.

So does stuff make us happy? It’s a complicated question without a simple answer… what do you think?

Recommended Book

Joyful

Sep 04, 2018
ISBN: 9780316399289

Interesting Fact #1

Isolating yourself from social contact is a pretty common response to feeling unhappy, but there’s a large body of research that says it’s the worst thing you can do. This is a huge mistake, as socializing, even when you don’t enjoy it, is great for your mood. We all have those days when we just want to pull the covers over our heads and refuse to talk to anybody, but the moment this becomes a tendency, it destroys your mood. Recognize that when unhappiness is making you antisocial, you need to force yourself to get out there and mingle. You’ll notice the difference right away.

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Interesting Fact #2

We need to feel in control of our lives in order to be happy, which is why blaming is so incompatible with happiness. When you blame other people or circumstances for the bad things that happen to you, you’ve decided that you have no control over your life, which is terrible for your mood.

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Interesting Fact #3

Judging other people and speaking poorly of them is a lot like overindulging in a decadent dessert; it feels good while you’re doing it, but afterwards, you feel guilty and sick. Sociopaths find real pleasure in being mean. For the rest of us, criticizing other people (even privately or to ourselves) is just a bad habit that’s intended to make us feel better about ourselves. Unfortunately, it doesn’t. It just creates a spiral of negativity.

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Quote of the day

“For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson

Article of the day - Science Says These Five Things Will Make You Happier

People often think things like money or luxury lead to happiness, but research indicates some healthy life practices may actually be the key. Simple experiences like spending time with friends and family or practicing gratitude may promote a healthier outlook on life. Looking for ways to shift negative thinking? Want to increase positivity in your life? Ready to put that gratitude journal to good use? Here are five ways you can boost your happiness on a daily basis. 

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Practice Daily Gratitude

Expressing gratitude has been shown to do more than improve your mood. People who write down a few positive things about their day are healthier, more energetic, less stressed and anxious and get better sleep. The key is to make this a regular habit and do it with intention. Think about creating a small gratitude ritual. For example, every morning when you have your coffee you could think of three things that you appreciate about the day before.

Or make it a habit to jot down three good things about your day before you go to bed at night. Your three good things can be really small — perhaps you saw something beautiful or just appreciate being healthy that day. In fact, science shows that it's the small everyday experiences that make us happier, as compared to big life events.

Surround Yourself with Positive People

Happiness is contagious. Dr. Nicholas Christakis and James Fowler, researchers at Harvard and The University of San Diego, found that each additional happy friend increases a person's probability of being happy by about nine percent. If you're feeling down, reach out to a friend or colleague who generally has a more positive attitude. Our brains have mirror neurons that will literally mimic what the other person is expressing. So when you need a bit of positive infusion, connect with those who share it.

Do Regular Acts of Kindness

Research has shown that spending money on others makes us happier than spending money on ourselves and doing small acts of kindness increases life satisfaction. Hold the door for the person behind you, say thank you and mean it when you get your drink from the coffee shop, pick up your colleague's favorite snack and leave it on their desk for them. Even the smallest nice gesture can make someone's day.

Spend More Time with Family and Friends

Having friends can save your life. Low social interaction can be as bad for you as smoking 15 cigarettes a day and is twice as bad for your health as obesity. Even if you're busy, you can find ways to connect with people you care about. Use your lunch break as an opportunity to call a friend or, if possible, take a walk together. If you're busy during the week, how about inviting your friend to do some errands together on the weekend?

Spend Money on Experiences Instead of Things

Research shows people report feeling happier when they spend their money on experiences rather than objects. We remember experiences for a longer period of time and our brains can re-live them, making our positive emotions last longer. So instead of that new pair of jeans consider trying a new yoga class or inviting a friend to the movies with you.

Question of the day - Do you believe that stuff makes you happy?

The Search for Happiness

Do you believe that stuff makes you happy?