Self-sabotage: a nervous system & unhealed trauma perspective

About a year ago, my special topic lecture of the month was all on the origins of self-sabotage and it was a massive it. It offered many aha moments for a lot of people!! So my team and I have edited that livestream lecture down to just under one hour. We've removed the stops, starts, and scrolls -- all the things that tend to happen on a livestream. Of course, if you like that stuff, you can find the raw and unedited version here: https://youtu.be/i3DK1F0KCTw

For more on self-sabotage, I did another vlog earlier this year titled, The origin story of procrastination, self-sabotage, & fleeing from health, and you can watch that one here: https://youtu.be/XL5knKEg0bI

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Here are some Questions/Topics I discuss in this chat:

1:04 - Introduction to self-sabotage
1:43 - Ways of self-sabotage?
3:29 - Ventral vagal aspect (connecting)
5:32 - Staying in abusive/toxic relationships and environments
7:50 - Wearing an invisible mask that keeps us from who we really are
10:46 - Human system healing itself
11:32 - Believing that we deserve to heal
12:04 - Nature healing Itself
17:01 - How survival stress begins
21:08 - Wired for disappointment
24:14 - Wired for self-shaming
24:50 - Healthy Shaming
26:01- Toxic Shaming
28:39 - Wired for shutdown
32:53 - Needing a reward/praise
36:00 - Effects of school
39:10 - Perfectionism
39:28- Pre-verbal & life force energy
43:25 - Healthy aggression is essential
48:09 - What’s the next step?
54:18 - Compassion for others and ourselves going through dysregulation



Resources I mention in this Vlog:

► Drop In Class
https://irenelyon.com/drop-in-class-1

► Edgar Cayce
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Edgar_Cayce

► George Ivanovich Gurdjieff
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/George_Gurdjieff

► Up & Down Movement Workshop
https://www.updownworkshop.com/

► The Polyvagal Theory. Explained
https://youtu.be/8AnHlx3qZ30

► [Trauma Tips #1] What's the nervous system got to do with it?
https://youtu.be/k4A4_OpbzkU

► Moshe Feldenkrais
https://feldenkrais.com/

► Disgust. The gateway emotion for healing toxic shame
https://youtu.be/2KlV1zD5asw

► Why healthy shame is good for us and toxic shame isn't.
https://youtu.be/TOMCmr3MFyc

► Origins of The ACE (Adverse Childhood Experiences) Study
https://soundcloud.com/irenelyon/origins-of-the-ace-study

► New Thinking About Children Paperback by Po Bronson (Author), Ashley Merryman
https://www.amazon.ca/NurtureShock-New-Thinking-About-Children/dp/0446504130/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwydP5BRBREiwA-qrCGsaOdS0mS4-fSAuwDzASYkFyn1lbwpxrAwCX-W2nI42VK-HDq56GvBoC3S4QAvD_BwE&hvadid=208348618282&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=9000718&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=e&hvrand=12109253776488184904&hvtargid=kwd-299124639780&hydadcr=14946_9480928&keywords=nurture+shock&qid=1597361728&sr=8-1&tag=googcana-20

► What is Healthy Aggression
https://youtu.be/tqGsbFjihHo

► How suppressing our emotions and physiology can lead to depression
https://irenelyon.com/2020/11/01/how-suppressing-our-emotions-and-physiology-can-lead-to-depression/

► Free Resource Centre
https://irenelyon.com/free-resources-2/

► 21-Day Nervous System Tune Up
https://irenelyon.com/tuneup/

► Functional Freeze Explained
https://youtu.be/DmJtHB__ji0

► SmartBody SmartMind
https://www.smartbodysmartmind.com/

► Yellowstone and the trophic cascade that took place
https://www.nationalgeographic.org/media/wolves-yellowstone/

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